My puppy looks to me and my husband for validation. He is rewarded with treats or exuberant praise within 4 seconds of a desired action so he is good to go 🙂
Children look to their parents, teachers and peers to validate their choices, opinions and ideas on a regular basis to learn that what they are doing is accepted (correct, good etc).
As adults we present strategies and goals because we think they are a solid representation of where we believe the company should go and look to our peers and leadership to validate our idea through acceptance.
The requirement for validation ebbs and flows through out our lifetime. As children it is extremely important to us. As teenagers we secretly desire it but never dare to admit it. As adults it is dependent on the situation.
What I have found to be true for me is age coupled with experience provide a level of confidence that knocks the desire for validation down a peg or two or three.
Which is why I was surprised at just how validated I felt when I ran across this blog validating how I process information, even if it is old school. How I process information is not something I actively considered until the recent past.
Here is the quote that made me feel validated:
“Handwriting is slower and more laborious than typing, and so a student has to be more selective about what to record. Because the speed of longhand is lower than the speed of presentation, the student also must condense and summarize, thereby initiating a process of comprehension in the very act of taking notes.” Bauerlein, Mark (2015, January 12). To Students: Close Laptops, Use Pencils Retrieved from http://www.firstthings.com
After sitting through several meetings and professional development courses I began to notice the difference between old school (note taking with ink) and millennial laptop dependance.
I take notes with a pen and paper in a series of notebooks. I don’t use a laptop or tablet to take notes unless they are brief calendar appointments or lists of ideas (these cross over into the notebooks too) etc.
For this blog I conduct interviews as well as independent research. When I conduct interviews I try to use my conference call number and record the whole thing (fully disclosed to both parties) – so I have a second reference. What my interviewees are sometimes unaware of though is I’m taking pages of notes to help me process and formulate my ultimate post or posts.
I reference those notes time and again and they inspire new ideas long after the initial posting is completed. I don’t have to reference them though for the essence of what was discussed. The very act of note taking helps my post take shape.
Note Taking May Raise Eyebrows
In the professional environment, when I pull out my notebook to take notes I usually get a sideways glance because typically my laptop is open and front and center as well. I bring the laptop into meetings for one reason:
1. There are documents that are being referenced and I have them open on the laptop
If I’m not actively engaged in viewing said documents the laptop is closed and poised to spring into action. Whether you think about it or not the click-click of typing can be distracting in a meeting to others.
It also may be conveying to the speaker that you are not paying attention or fully interested in the topic at hand. In fact you probably aren’t because like many people faced with their laptop in front of them during a meeting they are multitasking by reading and/or responding to e-mail, killing pixels or updating their social streams.
My notebook allows me to take in what the speaker(s) is sharing and begin processing it as well as having a reference to access at anytime. That is the great thing about taking notes I’m not just hearing the speaker, but listening and processing with sharper contextual recall.